In the world of parenting, there’s that tricky time when your daughter or son transitions from being your sweet well-adjusted little kid, seemingly overnight, to… something altogether different.
It’s “tween-hood." I'm talking about in-between being a kid, and becoming a teen (9-13ish)
We KNOW that the best way to prevent our tweens from undertaking risky behavior is to have a solid and open relationship of trust with them.
That’s easy, right? Actually no.
When trying to talk with her, do you feel like you’re navigating a minefield? An explosion might occur when you least expect it. Or, actual words appear to be too much of a chore. The opposite holds true for interacting with her friends!
There's a lot of stuff she might be dealing with (to name a few)...
- BULLYING Something like 1 in 4 tweens are involved. It can encompass verbal and emotional abuse, social exclusion, and electronic methods. Your daughter might not know how to fend for herself in the situation. Telling her to just stay away from the offender might not be enough. This can get pretty vicious.
- STATUS Marketers know that our girls identify so much with brands that it literally defines who they are. Low self-esteem amplifies her sense of this.
- HORMONES and BRAIN UNDER CONSTRUCTION Puberty=lots of emotional changes. Your daughter might seem super-touchy. Tread softly with teasing and even your own facial expressions. Her hurt over a “break-up” or a friend-tiff is intense. Maybe don’t push too hard for the story, as your empathy might go a longer way to help. Her brain is still maturing, which makes impulsive behavior common. When you ask them “why did you do that?”, um, they don’t know!
- PEER PRESSURE: Instead of advising her to say “no” to something, she might need more specific strategies she can use.
You may find yourself searching for ways to bond and spend time with her. I know she’s not jumping on your lap anymore so it takes a bit more ingenuity to keep her interest.
I want my daughter to be a strong woman...I just need to be able to live with her in the meantime --anonymous
As a photographer, I photograph lots of adorable babies who can’t be resisted! The younger kids are so cute and innocent.
I also do amazing sessions with high-school seniors. We spend hours on hair, make-up, doing several looks at one or two chosen locations. It’s a celebration of who they’ve become and what they’re about to embark on—an exciting journey into becoming adults.
Last year, recognizing that we didn't have anything to offer this group in particular, I decided to offer something just for the tweens. I started the “WHO I AM’ project.
In fact, this age group has lots to offer and so many redeeming qualities and talent. I capture that with a photo session that focuses on just her. What does she love to do? What makes her feel confident and happy? What can we do to make her feel amazing?
It’s not just photos. It's an opportunity to give a dose of confidence.
It’s quotes written by a parent, a teacher, a grandparent, themselves that are heartfelt and true. It’s the combination that creates the experience…one that’s sure to boost her confidence. She might even think you’re cool again.
These tween sessions are being offered by Deb Wesley Photography through the end of March.
To get more information on how you can reserve a session for your favorite tween. Just fill out the form below and you’ll get the 411!